Seven secrets of Child Training

The rapid growth of juvenile delinquency affords tragic evidence that bringing up children has well-nigh become a lost art in today modern society. All too many are not “brought up” at all, but largely left to do as they please. As a results, in some states in the U.S more than 60 percent of persons arrested for crimes of violence are juveniles.

Yet it is not necessary that raising a children should be that stressful and troublesome. Proper and thoughtful planning with your spouse before and after marriage along with thoughtful support from one another and with wisdoms can turn your children into though not perfect yet be like little angels. “Train up a child in the way he should go”, says your Bible, “and when he is old, he will not depart from it” ( Proverb 22:6).

Train is the essential word. It embraces thoughtful planning, unwearying determination, and infinite patience. It is no job for weaklings. The most vital task ever committed to men and women, it demands the utmost and best of them.

Regardless of your background, home environment or socio economic status. Here are 7 Tips to raising a child who can become well functioning adult with a modestly happy and peaceful mind.

1) Watch Over Your Children with Ceaseless Vigilance.

If you want to bring up your children to become a well rounded and well functioning adult of the society, you cannot leave them half time with the neighbors or with stranger nannies. The best baby sitter in the world is no substitute for a mother. But, you would say, mother has to go out to work! More’s the pity. If at all possible_and sometimes it is impossible_she should stay home with the children.

But, you argue, “how elese would we make our monthly payments on the car, the refrigerator, the freezer, the radio, the television set?”

That is a problem. Maybe you will have to choose between these gadgets and your children. You could end up with a lot of machinery and a broken heart.

You may think and say “We must need to have a lot of money then before getting married and have children.” On the contrary, when the children were small most succesful couples had very little. To name a few as examples look more in detail about prominent families such as the Romney, Marriots, Waltons, and Huntsman family. 

The last time mothers went out to work was months before first baby arrived.  After having a first child, all these years she has spent guiding, training, and helping the children in ways without numbers.

The older generation couples particulary from GI generations had no refrigerator, no washing machine, no freezer, and of course , no television. They did’nt get their first second hand car till their oldest child was almost in their teens.

“What should we do?” you may ask a fellow up question. You must decide that the interests of the children should come first! 

Mother was always there when the children came home from school. Whenever they entered the house there was always that radiant welcome that only a mother can give. She’s always interested in all that concerned them, being ready to meet their needs, answer their questions, help them to make right decisions, and warn them against temptations. No woman worn out from a hard day’s work, with all the family chores still to do, can do a job like this properly.

2) Maintain Your God-appointed Leadership.

God intends that parents, not the Children, shall direct the household. See Genesis 18:19. As you value the peace and happiness of your home, don’t surrender this leadership. There was a time when some educators advocated to leave children free to do just about what they like, lest they develop a complex anxiety and consequences of their choice a particular child had made , but experience has proved that such ideas are unsound. ( Look no further at the Today’s domestic crisis and civil unrest in United States along with constant academics from secular backgrounds still supporting their view point).

After all, what are parents for if not to plan the program of their homes and give direction to their children’s lives? Upon them is laid the responsibility to guide, to counsel, to lead, and if they fail to live up to this responsibility, they invite only calamity and sorrow.

A colt, a lamb, a calf, a puppy, stay with its mother for a few days or weeks, but boys and girls, under normal circumstances, remain with their parents for years. Why? By accident or design? Human Parents have a long-term thinking, gracious in all their ways. Parents have a long term job on their hands, for this present life, but also for the life to come.

By divine design, Fathers are to lead and preside over their families in love and in righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed. See the Family Proclamation for more information. 

3. Help Your Children to find God for themselves as Early as Possible

This is Vital. Let their earliest thoughts be about Jesus and His Love. As soon as they can read, teach them to study their weekly Bible lessons by themselves. Make sure they know by heart the Ten Commandments, the twenty-third Pslam, the Beeatitudes, and other great passages of scripture. Urge them to say their prayers by their own besides every night before they go to sleep and every morning when they get up.

Children will pray for all sorts of strange and wonderful things. Never mind. Let them do it. All of their prayers may not be answered but many of them will be. God takes special delight in answering children’s prayers and that He does so in order to strengthen their faith in Him.

Children who come to regard Jesus as their firm, true Friend in their earliest days will make them more mature, peaceful, wiser and turn to Him in periods of stress and strain in years to come. In youth they will be able to navigate themselves in the storms of this latter days period and be able to give service to the society and nation either through impactful and incredible ways or through rather modest and small yet significant contributions.

4. Keep Your Children Busy

The old saying that “Satan finds some mischief still for idle hands to do” has a lot of truth in it. Children are normally so full of life that if they are not engaged in something good they will surely be up to mischief.

This does’nt mean that parents should be slave drivers, thinking up one task after another for their children to do. That does’nt make for a happy family. Children must have time to play. But they should be led to understand that it is their responsibility to help keep the home going. Just as soon as they are old enough to do little jobs around the place they should always be the one to get the supper ready and wash the dishes.

Children can be a marvelous help around for the community if they are taught to do their part when they are very young. Once get across the idea that it is their duty and privilege to keep the homerunning and looking nice because it is their home, and they will stop at nothing in their desire to help. They will do the dusting and the floor washing and the lawn cutting without you having to ask them, without holding out their hands to be paid for every little service.

5. Lay Responsibilities Upon Your Children and See That They Carry Them Out.

This will teach them self-reliance early on and make them trustworthy in days to come. Ofcourse, this will take time too. It is easy enough to give a child a job; but considerably more difficult to see that it’s done. And it takes real perseverance to insist that it be done over and over until it is done right. Yet only so can one build character and strong work ethics.

One of the curse of the present age is passing the buck, otherwise known as “Let Bill do it”. Work is regarded as something to be by-passed if possible, or hurried through no matter how slipshod the way in which the task is carried out. The remedy for this disease of irresponsibilty must be applied in childhood. Little Tommy must be made to understand that when mother or father gives him a job he must do it to the best of his ability. Little May must learn that she cannot escape her responsibilties even with the most subtle excuses.

Children trained like this will grow into dependable youth. It will be natural for them to be faithful to every trust. And when at last they leave home to take up their lifework, build up their marriage and start their own business, the world will welcome them.

6. Open the Treasure House of New Ideas

When the children are old enough to read by themselves, introduce them to good books, worthwhile informative movies and magazines. This will take more time. For you will have to read the books and magazines yourself to fin out which are good and which are not.  Remember that one bad book, music, MTV, social media content or “movies” can poison a child’s mind for life. So keep strong control on all reading matter, visual and social media outlets comming into your home. And when opportunity offers, explain why some things are good and others are bad. Take time to explain why a mother and father turn one program off and another one on. If the explanation is given wisley, kindly, and firmly, the children will see the correctness of the decision and will make the same right choice when there is no grownup around to tell them what to do.

7. Make Home the Central Attraction

Plan thing to make the children happy. Take time to play with them. Make them feel that they are wanted. Let them know you love them. Tell them to invite their friends- at the proper times, of course. Above all, read to them and often play with them. Children love to be read too. There’s no music like the sound of mother’s voice. When our children come home_though they are all grown up now_they still beg mother to read them a story as she used to do when they were young.

The result of all this will be that the children will look upon home as the most beautiful place in the world. They won’t be forever running off to the neighbor’s or to the movies or to the skating rink or to the clubs/bars. For them there will be no joy quite like just being at home.

In years to come such a home will prove an anchor amid the storms of life, and the most treasured memory they will carry with them to the home eternal.